Relationship is often the major casualty in the life of the addicted person and his or her family, friends and other associates. It normally goes un noticed that the family and those who care about the victim of addiction are is great psychological problems and sometimes even the problem graduates to being physical. The society is also not left out in essence when an individual is seriously suffering from drug addiction everybody is suffering. This collectiveness in suffering is what is going to form the basis of this article we want to discuss this problem with a view of restoring the trust and relationship damaged by addiction. I believe you would also want to seek this answers and I want therefore invite you to stay on the link and keep reading for real and informative piece of information.
Trust is the foundation in which any meaningful relationship stands. Any relationship built on trust will always stand the test of time and weather all storms that may come on the way but those without trust normally fails even before they pick up. Trust can be infringed and completely ruined by an addiction. Take for example an addict in the family may excuse him/herself shortly to perform a 5minutes task and only surface back 5 hours later because they went to indulge in drugs this is an act of dishonesty that brings lots of mistrust. Secretiveness and hiding are common to those suffering from addiction and often lead them to doing things uncharacteristic of their true nature which is why rebuilding relationships requires trust.
During the process of addiction recovery addicts normally achieve higher level of awareness and clearer thinking. The desire is to regain the lost times and opportunities due to addiction and also to restore the relationships which were injured by addiction. The key to proper restoration of relationships is restoring trust between the recovering addicts and their loved ones. It is important that both parties here appreciate that trust is earned and once broken will take time to rebuild. Doing this can take several dimensions to achieve therefore both the addicts and their loved ones can chose to start the journey or regaining trust by taking the following steps which will be full of love and les turmoil.
Once a person enters recovery, they achieve a higher level of awareness and clearer thinking. They want to regain the things in life that were lost due to the addiction and often most important is the restoration of relationships that were harmed by the addiction. Central to rebuilding relationships is restoring trust and both the recovering addict, as well as their loved ones, must begin to recognize that regaining trust takes time. There are several steps the addict and their loved ones can take to begin to restore trust with more love and less turmoil.
- Open communication
At the early stages of recovery the addict may experience acute and post-acute withdrawal symptoms that affect their moods, emotions and psychological balance as well as how they relate with the society. This is a time of transition meaning letting go of unhealthy relationships and environments and creating new sober associations and healthy sober leisure activities. The transition period help the addict heal and reinvent themselves and should be encouraged and shared. However sharing can sometimes be difficult owing to the fact that some of the addicts may have been secretive, dishonest and hiding things for many years
Loved ones who have been under consistent assault and emotional decay will often remember past experiences and behaviors of the addiction and so changes made by the recovering person and by the loved one can be challenging because of mistrust. But all the same the lives of loved ones will definitely change once recovery begins. For sometimes they may feel upset, overwhelmed or left behind by the changes, even though the changes are desirable they may also not be used to sharing frequently because the effects of addiction kept the addict and the loved one separated.
It is important for the recovering addict and their loved ones to talk freely of what each person is experiencing as changes begins to take shape. Increased communication and sharing the progress and challenges each person is facing during this recovery process helps everyone better understand each other and be more supportive. Here are some examples:
- If the recovering addict feels ill due to withdrawal. They may begin to isolate, become distant or withdrawn. Those closest to them may suspect a return to using. If the recovering person instead shares their physical challenges, loved ones will have less cause for alarm.
- A loved one may struggle with how to reorganize their life and responsibilities now that the recovering person is taking care of themselves. Sharing these feelings and concerns allow for the loved one and the recovering person to manage these changes together, which builds mutual trust.
In addition to increasing overall communication, it is vitally important that both the recovering addict and their loved ones discuss the fears and concerns driving any feelings of mistrust. Discussing fears and concerns take them from unknown and overwhelming to being manageable. Some fears may be unfounded, some may be based on years of past interactions, and some may be realistic only by expressing and dealing with the fears and concerns openly can they be handled well or dismissed as unnecessary worry.
Lack of honesty is a primary reason for distrust. People are dishonest for many reasons but generally it is to avoid being confronted, to avoid disappointing others, to hide their true behavior, or to avoid hurting others. Unfortunately, dishonesty eventually leads to the very thing sought to be avoided. If loved ones make it safe and beneficial for the recovering person to tell the truth (and vice versa), there will be more honesty. If honesty is met with appreciation, truthfulness will continue while at the same time if the truth is met with arguments, penalties, and no chance for a healing discussion, honesty will not continue. Communicating with honesty takes courage, so everyone should show appreciation and gentleness in order for the honesty to continue and grow.
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